CHAPTER.

Nine.

WASTED TIME.

Its impossible to hold onto a relationship when the other person has already decided to let it go.

Single And Alone A strong woman would rather be single and alone than to waste her time being in a relationship and sleeping with a man who makes her feel like she doesnt even exist.

Sometimes, youre left with only two choices: (1) Sleep alone and be physically cold or (2) waste your time sleeping next to someone who cares nothing about you and wake up in the morning feeling cold emotionally.

When He Loses Your Respect One of the hardest things youll ever try to do is continue to love someone you no longer respect.

Respect and trust are at the very foundation of any healthy relationship. Without them, everything else quickly disappears; everything except love. Love doesnt disappear right away. It first slowly turns into frustration, followed by resentment. This evolution will leave you, not with the memories of the love you once shared, but with the feelings of resentment and regret that you now feel.

Frustrated One of the most frustrating positions you, as a good woman, could ever find yourself in, is in a relationship with a man who makes you feel like youre still single.

Being in a relationship with a man that has no time for you, shows you no affection, and makes you feel like, half the time, youre still single whats the point?

I can think of a lot of good reasons why you would want to be in a relationship but being lonely isnt one of them.

My thoughtstalk to him. Dont try to ignore the feeling because it will only get worse. Explain to him how you feel and give him the opportunity to make the necessary adjustments. If he makes those adjustments, great. If he doesnt, then the b.a.l.l.s back in your court. You can either accept it or reject it, but the choice is yours.

When He Doesnt Love You And You Know It Some of you will fall asleep tonight and dream of what it would be like to be truly loved, then wake up in the morning and choose to waste your time on a man you know doesnt love you.

You cant complain about being in a situation that you have the power to change but choose not to. If you know its not going anywhere, dont waste your time.

Love Should Never Feel Lonely True love is an exciting experienceone that should never cause you to feel emotionally lonely.

Even when there is a physical distance between you, the emotional connection should still be there. You should be able to close your eyes, on the darkest nights, and still feel their presenceto be physically alone, yet spiritually accompanied by their very essence. If ever there comes a time when you feel emotionally lonely in a relationship, it may be because what wasno longer is.

In Love With The Idea Some of you are more in love with the idea of being in love than you are in love with the person you are with.

So youve created a fantasy world in your head and in this world, youve made your relationship out to be more than what it really is. Because youre in love with the idea of being in love and you want it so bad, you ignore all the signs that tell you this person is wrong for you. You are so ready to believe that he is who you want him to be that, even when he shows you that he is not you ignore it.

Your friends, the ones you trust the most, have tried to warn you, but youve blown them off by saying, They dont know or they dont understand or theyre just hating on you because youre happy. My question is, happy with what? Are you happy with the idea or the reality?

Remember this: all fantasies come to an end. At some point, youll have to deal with the reality of the matter and the fact that he isnt really what you want or need. Then youre left disappointed and stuck with two choices: settle or move on after wasting all your time on something that never was.

Why Are You Still Here?

If you dont love me, why are you still here?

You standing there only makes it worse.

Please, just walk away.

I promise, I wont hate you if you do

but I will if you dont.

They say, If you want to understand how someone else feels, you have to be able to put yourself in their shoes. So, I asked myself, If I were you and someone strung me along, how would I feel? That was the first thing that came to mind.

What Hurts The Most What hurts you the most is not the fact that its over, but rather that you chose to waste your time with him in the first place.

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CHAPTER.

Ten.

HEARTBREAK.

Have you ever felt like your heart had been ripped right out of your chest like when they walked out the door, they took with them your very last breath?

He Cant Love You One of the most disappointing things that you, as a woman, could ever go through is to fall in love with a man that cant love and respect you because he hasnt learned to love and respect himself yet.

Emotionally Stuck The worst feeling you can have is the feeling of being stuck in a physical relationship with someone you have already emotionally separated from.

The True Frustration Of Heartbreak A womans tears dont necessarily come from one heartbreak, but rather they come from the acc.u.mulation of years of heartbreak and the frustration that you feel after putting everything you have into your relationships, day after day, month after month, and year after year, and still ending up with the same heartbreaking results.

Unspoken Words Of Her Soul A womans teardrops are the unspoken words of her soul.

They write the story of her pain with disappearing ink and with every stroke,

I try to understand before I wipe away the words from her face,

In hopes that, as the tears dry, true love will be the reason all her pain has been erased.

When The Love Is Real When your love is real, its hard to just stop loving someoneeven after theyve proven to you over and over again that they dont deserve your love.

Thats what makes breaking up so hard to do. You know its time to go, but love just wont let you walk away. Real love wants you to give them another chance, to try just one more time to make it work, even when deep down inside you knowh.e.l.l never change.

Your Broken Heart Does a womans broken heart ever truly heal

or do you simply become stronger and find better ways

to conceal the pain?

You see, I might not know your name, but you cant fool

me with the lines,

telling me you dont care about him anymore, but I can

see it in your eyes that he hurt you.

Dont be ashamed of the pain: embrace it.

Dont turn your back on the pain: face it.

Let it all out and release it to the wind