Wednesday, continued …

When Anna calmed down, Phillipa said "I always knew that he had been physically violent, but the first and hardest step is admitting it . While some people would say that knowing specifics is always important about each incident, my view is that it is not . Each incident adds to how you feel and has gotten us to the point where you are . "

Phillipa paused and looked at the two people before her . She could read, how they felt, but knew that she needed to ask the next question . "I need you both to be honest . How do you feel about what Anna as said, and what happened last night . I need this to formulate how we will go forward . Anna?"

Anna took a deep breath "I feel so ashamed . Not only that I allowed him to do everything to me that he did, but the fact that I lies and hid everything from my family and friends . I dismissed any of their concerns, telling them they were imagining things and that he was not abusive towards me . If they observed something, I dismissed it claiming it was from an accident, or claim that it was from our consensual s*xual activities . If anyone saw anything, I would laugh it off, and state they did not have to be worried"

Phillipa, looked at Anna, "Why did you feel ashamed?"

"I know better . I deal with domestic violence victims at work, helping them with their legal issues and to protect themselves . I ignored it, though in my own relations.h.i.+p and let it get me to the point that Lu Jinhu controlled my life and was able to place me in a position that I did nothing . I should have done something and gotten rid of him . "

With that Anna burst out into tears, and Hou Yi again let her lean into his chest, rubbing her back and saying repeatedly "Sweetheart you are not to blame . He is . You are safe"

"Anna, Yi is right . You are not to blame, nor should you feel guilty . Lu Jinhu is at fault, and you know that . No one should abuse or manipulate a partner . Think about it, remember what you know from your work . You know the answers . "

Everyone stayed quiet until Anna, again had started to calm down . She nodded in response to Phillipa's statements .

"Yi, given what Anna has said, how do you feel . "

"Last night I was ready to hurt him physically for hurting Anna, but given what she has revealed I wish I had, despite knowing it achieves nothing . No one has the right to do to another what he has done . He has caused so much harm, but is oblivious to it . He has added to the in-relations.h.i.+p harm through what he did a fortnight ago outside the Civil Administration Bureau and the Key Plaza Hotel by last night . "

"I feel guilty as I did not step in to stop him hurting her last night . I should have realised what they would do, given what they did at the Key Plaza Hotel and acted to make sure she was safe . Now that I know he used violence or the threat of them to control Anna, if he was here, I would …" By the end Hou Yi was extremely angry .

"Yi stop that . I know that you are angry, but we do not need you to finish that sentence . " Interrupted Phillipa .

Anna, however heard the words from Hou Yi, and could not believe that he felt guilty . "Yi, you have nothing to be guilty for . It is me . "

"No Anna, I did not protect you . I know what the Lu family are like and I did nothing to s.h.i.+eld you from him . "

In a firm and determined voice, Phillipa interrupted . "Stop trying to take the blame . You both are intelligent enough in this area to know that neither of you are to blame, but you are doing it . You know Lu Jinhu is to blame, as are his parents who enable and support his behaviour and allow him to use power over and above that what he happens . "

Phillipa paused "Now, where we are going . The two of them need to be charged for last night, so you need to contact the police to make a report . To go forward Anna, you also need to contract Victorian Police, and report him for at least the broken arm, as there will be medical records . Tell them everything, and see what they can do . Neither of you can let him get away with it . It has to stop, as he will keep acting here as he believes he can act with impunity . "

"Tomorrow, with you two I will work out the long term strategy, including bringing in a local psychologist I trust to establish the long term counselling timetable, so you can plan to move forward . When I am here I will be and additional resource, but you need the long-term stability of a local counselor rather than the short sharp hits I can give you . "

Wednesday, continued … When Anna calmed down, Phillipa said I always knew that he had been physically violent, but the first and hardest step is admitting it . While some people would say that knowing specifics is always important about each incident, my view is that it is not . Each incident adds to how you feel and has gotten us to the point where you are . Phillipa paused and looked at the two people before her . She could read, how they felt, but knew that she needed to ask the next question . I need you both to be honest . How do you feel about what Anna as said, and what happened last night . I need this to formulate how we will go forward . Anna? Anna took a deep breath I feel so ashamed . Not only that I allowed him to do everything to me that he did, but the fact that I lies and hid everything from my family and friends . I dismissed any of their concerns, telling them they were imagining things and that he was not abusive towards me . If they observed something, I dismissed it claiming it was from an accident, or claim that it was from our consensual s*xual activities . If anyone saw anything, I would laugh it off, and state they did not have to be worried Phillipa, looked at Anna, Why did you feel ashamed? I know better . I deal with domestic violence victims at work, helping them with their legal issues and to protect themselves . I ignored it, though in my own relations.h.i.+p and let it get me to the point that Lu Jinhu controlled my life and was able to place me in a position that I did nothing . I should have done something and gotten rid of him . With that Anna burst out into tears, and Hou Yi again let her lean into his chest, rubbing her back and saying repeatedly Sweetheart you are not to blame . He is . You are safe Anna, Yi is right . You are not to blame, nor should you feel guilty . Lu Jinhu is at fault, and you know that . No one should abuse or manipulate a partner . Think about it, remember what you know from your work . You know the answers . Everyone stayed quiet until Anna, again had started to calm down . She nodded in response to Phillipas statements . Yi, given what Anna has said, how do you feel . Last night I was ready to hurt him physically for hurting Anna, but given what she has revealed I wish I had, despite knowing it achieves nothing . No one has the right to do to another what he has done . He has caused so much harm, but is oblivious to it . He has added to the in-relations.h.i.+p harm through what he did a fortnight ago outside the Civil Administration Bureau and the Key Plaza Hotel by last night . I feel guilty as I did not step in to stop him hurting her last night . I should have realised what they would do, given what they did at the Key Plaza Hotel and acted to make sure she was safe . Now that I know he used violence or the threat of them to control Anna, if he was here, I would … By the end Hou Yi was extremely angry Yi stop that . I know that you are angry, but we do not need you to finish that sentence . Interrupted Phillipa . Anna, however heard the words from Hou Yi, and could not believe that he felt guilty . Yi, you have nothing to be guilty for . It is me . No Anna, I did not protect you . I know what the Lu family are like and I did nothing to s.h.i.+eld you from him . In a firm and determined voice, Phillipa interrupted . Stop trying to take the blame . You both are intelligent enough in this area to know that neither of you are to blame, but you are doing it . You know Lu Jinhu is to blame, as are his parents who enable and support his behaviour and allow him to use power over and above that what he happens . Phillipa paused Now, where we are going . The two of them need to be charged for last night, so you need to contact the police to make a report . To go forward Anna, you also need to contract Victorian Police, and report him for at least the broken arm, as there will be medical records . Tell them everything, and see what they can do . Neither of you can let him get away with it . It has to stop, as he will keep acting here as he believes he can act with impunity . Tomorrow, with you two I will work out the long term strategy, including bringing in a local psychologist I trust to establish the long term counselling timetable, so you can plan to move forward . When I am here I will be and additional resource, but you need the long-term stability of a local counselor rather than the short sharp hits I can give you .