Ultimately, I ring the chairman back to accept. He says, You're the toughest negotiator I've ever dealt with. This was our final offer. I was calling the next candidate if you said no again.

How can I tell him that had I been negotiating, I'd have taken the first offer?

Right before decamping, I go with a few women from my group plus Dev for a weekend on Cape Cod. He splashes in the waves with the ladies, and at night we boil lobsters and stuff ourselves with mounds of herb-sticky pasta.

At dusk on Sunday, we all pat together an ornate sand castle with moats and levees and bridges. We mold bucket-shaped turrets. The courtyard's tiled with seash.e.l.ls. The scene blows back to me now with a high, clear oboe note of joy, a feeling then so unfamiliar, it no doubt accounts for my vivid recollections of that day-the sound of Dev's yellow shovel going shush, shush shush, shush in wet sand. Behind us, winds in long gra.s.ses in wet sand. Behind us, winds in long gra.s.ses hiss hiss. The sky is fading to purple with a fat sun red as a cough lozenge about to sink into the sea.

I lounge in a low deck chair, a gla.s.s of lemonade jammed in the sand beside me. Dev's hunched over, moving down our ranks, packing sand over each set of feet. Deb adds her own pebble toenails.

Why didn't I ever go on vacation before? I wonder.

You and Warren never went? Liz asks.

Just to his folks' houses. We were always so broke, trying to find time to write.

Deb says, Didn't you go to the Vineyard once?

That's right, I say. See, I still fail to remember the good stuff very much. (In my head, I can hear Joan-who wasn't there-say, Work on that Work on that.) Warren and I fought on the ferry going over, I remember, because he didn't want our friends to come for the weekend. He wanted to write the whole time. So I pouted most of the week.

You figured he was being stubborn, Deb says.

But I was being-(I flounder for a word and hear Joan say stubborn stubborn)-stubborn.

You could've taken other holidays, though, Deb says.

Liz comes around with more lemonade and tops me off.

That's what our therapist says. Maybe we can swap houses with somebody in another city.

Dev, done with patting sand on my feet, informs me it's his garage; my feet are cars; I need to reverse them easy so the structure doesn't collapse. I gingerly slide them out, and he whoops, then runs down to get a bucket of water. The sandpipers clear him a path. We watch him lug his bucket sloshing back and set it next to me.

What's this for? I say.

To wash your feet off, he says. He dumps the cold water over my callused dogs.

Deb says, This is how he's gonna think women are-just lined up in front of him, cooing approval.

Now bury my feet, he says. Soon as he slides down in the deck chair, though, his body folds in on itself. His head drops. Every line of him loosens. The sun's low, the western sky burning. Smoke from somebody's grill drifts over us.

I sit cross-legged on a towel, and we talk about how the group has changed us. Deb says, You just don't seem so mad anymore.

Mother and I talk on the phone every morning-not about much, but the connection's clearer. She doesn't exactly know she's my mother-she's not housewifey Donna Reed but Madonna Reed. That's okay now.

The waves keep slapping the sand and withdrawing with that hushed hiss of gravel tumbling. A single gull hotfoots away from the water.

Deb asks us to guess at the shape of our lives five years down the pike. I say, I'm scared to speculate, since I have a habit of wanting the wrong thing.

Now that's real progress, Mare, Deb says.

Mostly, Liz says, I wish I'd found it easier to love myself without having to love you two.

After a second, I give Liz the finger, and she gives it back-it's our group handshake almost, so I snap a picture of Deb and Liz doing it from their deck chairs.

I'm scared to leave you guys. I don't even know if Warren and I are gonna make it.

You'll be okay, Deb says.

I pick up Dev's plump and sandy foot and weigh it in my wide hand, sensing from its heft the resolute slumber in him. Behind him, there's a see-through moon, like part of it's sanded off. The sky's going midnight blue, and it calls up in my mind the eyes of Chris-Dev's babysitter for a day-with snowflakes in her lashes. I quote her to the ladies: Why is it that everybody else is traffic? Why is it that everybody else is traffic? Deb and Liz saw her the week she died. She'd lost an eye and tried to get one of them to take the baby she didn't realize was dead. She couldn't comprehend she wasn't pregnant anymore. Deb and Liz saw her the week she died. She'd lost an eye and tried to get one of them to take the baby she didn't realize was dead. She couldn't comprehend she wasn't pregnant anymore.

Could've been us, Liz says.

The incredible fortune that it wasn't floods up as Deb lifts her lemonade, saying, To Chris. n.o.body even says how corny it is. Our empty gla.s.ses gleam in the salt air.

36.

Lake-Effect Humor The smiles of the bathers fade as they leave the water,And the lover feels sadness fall as it ends, as he leaves his love.The scholar, closing his book as the midnight clocks strike, is hollow and old;The pilot's relief on landing is no release.These perfect and private things, walling us in, have imperfect and public endings...-Weldon Kees, "The Smiles of the Bathers"

So we move to upstate New York, into a house on a leafy block with a skylit master bedroom off which is a balcony so buried in branches that it feels like a tree fort where you can smoke cigars and shoot off a pop gun. Is it Warren's August birthday or Christmas when I get him a golden retriever puppy from Deb's dog's new litter? Grace, we call her. There's a park two blocks away we go to every day and a pond with ducks and a trail in the woods. Dev walks to kindergarten in the frosted mornings with his backpack on. Warren and I keep differing orbits and finally start sleeping in separate rooms. I whipsaw back and forth on whether to stay or go, but no solid message shows up, as if the magic 8-ball's still saying, Ask again later Ask again later.

Otherwise, the landscape seems less blunted and monochromatic. Stepping outside some mornings, it's like that instant in the optometrist's office when the right lens clicks over, the letters on the chart sharpening. There are individual leaves on trees where once was a lime smudge.

The writing has come back-with a polished quiet around it. Somehow I feel freer to fail. But the work mortifies me. Previously I'd seen the poems as adorable offspring, but they've become the most pathetic batch of little bow-legged, snaggle-toothed pinheads imaginable. Even the book I published with such pride a few years before-eager to foist it on anybody who'd read it-now seems egregiously dull, soph.o.m.oric, phony. If the pages were big enough, I might well use them to wrap fish.

In the past, I strafe-bombed poetry editors with pages, the old insatiable-for-praise ego desperate to carve my name on any vacant surface. Now my instinct is to rathole.

Just before Christmas, the publisher I most admire-an aging patrician I've never met-writes me the only fan letter I ever got. James Laughlin from New Directions published and palled around with t.i.tans like Pound and Williams, plus Trappist monk Thomas Merton, whose spiritual books I've fallen for. Laughlin wonders do I have a second collection, adding cautiously they hardly ever take anybody on.

Usually, I'd have retyped everything with a watchmaker's precision before mailing it off in a fancy binder. But so certain am I that the rejection letter's going to wing back like a homing pigeon, I just jam what I have in an envelope with an apology for how cobbled up it is.

Getting the poems off my desk frees me to label a folder MEMOIR MEMOIR, which stays pristinely empty for months, till I stuff a few scrawled notes in. Next summer maybe I can set off down that row.

That winter, snow falls without letup. From the eaves, the icicles grow jagged fangs big around as my thigh, past the windows. Living in the mouth of the winter witch, a friend calls this phenomenon. Also, we must've p.i.s.sed off the snowplow driver, who has a nasty habit of dropping his shovel loads in our driveway. Hours on end, Warren and I, faces chapped, hack away at mountains of ice while Dev frolics in his blue snowsuit.

The marriage has become nights on end of cordial agony. In the two years since I've gotten sober, Warren and I have alternately clung to or given room to each other till-over a tense series of months-we can no longer hold on.

An old sociological or Darwinian theory holds that when we're looking to gin out babies, we're biologically propelled toward the partner who'll color in dull spots in our own genetic code. So when opposites attract, they're biologically combining to form the perfect offspring. Looking back, I can see how Warren's very essence looked like a corrective to who I was and didn't want to be, which is unfair to him. Nor does that theory account for the love we had and the long, pure, edifying conversation we shared. Still, it must be said that someone who doesn't like herself very much (i.e., me: age twenty-five), someone who views a man as an antidote to her very being, will find-over time-that antidote becomes an irritant. I don't want to rehash the times we wooed each other again and the times we withdrew, or the million fights we had. The truth is, as noted, we're inclined to gloss over our failures.

One spring morning my students come to help Warren lug his parents' cherry antiques with all their heft and curlicued fittings from our small house. We unhitch our son's bunk bed into halves for his dual households, since we'll share custody. There's a schedule magnetically stuck to the fridge with a red mom's house and a blue dad's house and an iconic Dev who slides from one to the other. At the kindergarten graduation, while every other kid heartily sings and claps and stomps, Dev rocks from side to side, staring from one to the other of us and barely moving his lips. Stabs of guilt like flaming arrows fire into me at his blue-eyed puzzlement.

We're poor, all of us. You can't turn one home into two the same size. Since my salary comes closer to making the mortgage than Warren's, he takes a town house in a ghetto complex near a graveyard. With the Whitbread furniture gone, Dev can skateboard in the living room. Even after I rent out my attic to a grad student-a motorcycle-driving lesbyterian who sets my Republican neighbors' tongues wagging-I can't make ends meet. At first Warren and I plan to sell the house to give back Mr. Whitbread's small down payment, till Warren figures out my engagement ring could buy the whole place outright, so I fork that over instead.

That's the kind of stuff we bicker about. Maybe he feels, as I do, that he's given too much up-in furniture and car (on my part), house (on his part), or time with our son (on both parts). But when two different lawyers urge us separately to chase payouts we both know don't exist, we fire them. With a mediator, we hammer out a deal neither of us can imagine surviving on, then we sign it.

The Whitbread family tree sports nary a divorce, and it shames Warren to break the news. Once he does, the channels between the family and me snap so totally shut, I don't hear the fallout. While my clan views the split as a done deal, Mother can't feature me without Warren's solidity. The boat I row (financially speaking) is fully loaded and taking water, but so's Warren's.

Warren loans me our sole vehicle pretty much on demand, but it galls me to ask him. Facing walls of ice at my drive's end, I try to tell myself that not having a car to shovel out is a bonus, but climbing over slippery, filthy edifices to reach a bus stop, Dev's mittened hand in mine, I curse the oyster-gray sky and the fat flakes that Dev never tires of catching on his tongue. The bus to Dev's after-school takes a full hour each way, and pulling him in a red wagon to and from the grocery store leaves me feeling stranded as a polar explorer. (People who've never seen a credit-union employee roll her eyes when you request a two-thousand-dollar car note will say, Just borrow Just borrow.) In Syracuse, I find another circle of identical s.h.i.t-brown chairs occupied by sober strangers, and I call Joan the Bone to complain about the mildewy carpet and the chilblains I get wearing wet boots in the unheated room. She says, Uh-huh. Are they sober?

While Joan's never more than a phone call away, she can't be my polestar at such a remove. Before I moved, we'd agreed I'd have to find a local contender. You're irreplaceable, I tell her on the phone.

I am, aren't I? she says, nudging me by phone to court Patti-a former English teacher who helps run an outpatient rehab-a pet.i.te woman with a blond bob and the energy of a fire truck. She has enough outlaw in her to start, at one point, dating a biker in our acquaintance, and while I see her heart-shaped face at public lectures and bookstores, I also catch sight of her at a stoplight on the back of a Harley-Davidson, staring from the helmet's visor like a road warrior.

Over coffee, she worries that she doesn't have the time to counsel me, what with her h.e.l.lacious job and raising two kids alone while caring for an aged mother. But she takes my calls and listens to me whine. (Still does, seventeen years later.) When Dev has bronchitis and his codeine cough syrup looks tasty one night, it's Patti who squirrels the bottle away in her glove box and drives by after work every evening to dispense his single teaspoon.

But-shameful confession in this land of relentless, capped-tooth cheer-I'm lonely. Within weeks, Warren's taken up with a smart blonde I call my girlfriend-in-law, which act stings a little, however long our dissolution has been in coming. Seeing them hold hands at school events shines a spotlight-in my mind-on me in my solo chair. Part of me is glad for him, glad for the note he writes calling our match a poor one. It's the hand of friendship. (Ever after, we've shared parenting with conviction if not always ease, which is more than the divorced usually get-joint birthdays and graduations; phone conversations about school.) Not long after, I'm sleeping on a pallet on the floor when I hear a gla.s.s-blasting crash downstairs. I grab Dev's aluminum bat and edge down all bug-eyed, reaching bottom in time to see our black cat devouring Dev's pet frog, the flippered feet disappearing between the tom's thin black lips. So determined had the cat been to eat the frog-he'd been studying it through the gla.s.s for weeks-that he must've gotten behind the aquarium with his shoulder and body-blocked it off the table.

With my insides thumping from the adrenaline, I sit on the gla.s.s-spattered floor stroking the sleek tom a long while, figuring that's the closest I'll get to male company.

The next day in a bookstore with Patti, I tell her woman does not live by bread alone. I have a s.e.xual nature, I tell her.

Who doesn't? she says. But right now you'll glom on to anybody who makes you happy in the sack. That's how I wound up remarried to the c.o.ke addict. Just date for a while.

I never really dated.

Then you need to learn how. Try different kinds of guys.

I thought I wasn't schtuppable yet. If I start kissing a guy, he'll start to look like Elvis.

So we come up with a plan dubbed date-o-rama, whereby pals fix me up with a long string of guys, regardless of age or education level, income or looks. It's neither boyfriend nor sport-f.u.c.k I'm after. In advance, I offer to pay my own way and warn all comers that I don't so much as kiss. This is my way of demystifying the whole gender, plus giving myself wardrobe opportunities-an excuse for witchy shoes and lip gloss.

There comes a string of good eggs who never make boyfriends, all ages and shapes. If it moves, I'll date it. At a faculty party, I agree to dinner with a surgeon who turns out-how?-to be in his mid-twenties. (Our sole point of commonality is that I'd babysat one of his undergrad frat brothers.) I date a local mogul twice that age and stay friends with his family for years. A comedian and a fireman, a legendary undercover narc, the occasional prof or publishing dude, an arbitrager. None of these do I so much as press lips to.

Only one straitlaced captain of industry even tempts me. Fit and well traveled, he shows up in a snazzy convertible, and it thrills me that he doesn't drink. On our second phone call, though, he confesses a s.e.x addiction that involves-among other shockers-hospitalization for masturbation injuries.

Meanwhile, I'm broke enough to be filching toilet paper from the school bathroom. It's Patti who suggests I put G.o.d in charge of my financial woes, which sounds nuts unless you've spent a few years during which prayer keeps you from driving into stuff.

G.o.d's just gonna tell me to have another tag sale, I say, I'd sold every silver pie server and cake plate we got for our wedding.

So you know what G.o.d thinks now? (What is your source of information?) I confess I don't much know what G.o.d thinks.

Patti proposes that I pray to accept whatever reality I'm in, staying alert for practical solutions rather than issuing orders in prayer. It takes discipline to stop beseeching the heavens for wheelbarrows of gold ingots to roll to my door. I manage it for three or four nights max. Then-when Dev and I pick through trash piles for furniture-I find myself upending dresser drawers and (once) even pawing through an old golf bag in case somebody accidentally threw out any bearer bonds. After the mortgage, I have a few hundred bucks each month for every bill, morsel of food, and tube sock. During a sweaty night praying over a stack of unpaid bills, I literally kneel before them (in some ways worshipping my fear, it strikes me now).

Because I signed up to take my whole salary over the nine-month academic year, all money clicks off in June. Even with summer jobs, I face missing mortgage payments. If I had a few years to cobble up a book, maybe some publisher with sufficiently low standards would pony up enough to pay off my maxed-out credit cards so I could qualify for a rust-bucket car loan. But that'll take years. How to start while teaching, raising a kid, and working in some local restaurant? It's a bone I pin between my paws at night and work with my jaw teeth.

I once read some science article claiming that 90 percent of what our brains gin out involves jockeying for position. Will I get that subway seat? That job? Does he like me as much as I like him? Will I get that subway seat? That job? Does he like me as much as I like him? This mind-set works in a pack of lions inclined to tear deer meat out of your chops. But in my case, it pits me against others, keeps me inwardly growling. Cut off, it leaves me. Maybe this is the brain's natural instinct, but so is my urge to boink the UPS dude, who-as I get lonelier-starts to look like Sean Connery, which is why the phrase This mind-set works in a pack of lions inclined to tear deer meat out of your chops. But in my case, it pits me against others, keeps me inwardly growling. Cut off, it leaves me. Maybe this is the brain's natural instinct, but so is my urge to boink the UPS dude, who-as I get lonelier-starts to look like Sean Connery, which is why the phrase Think twice about that Think twice about that proves useful. proves useful.

37.

The Death of Date-o-Rama or The Romance of the Prose Every lover is a soldier.-Ovid Ill advised though it is, I start trolling for a beau-forget the semaph.o.r.es Patti flaps in warning before my face. Reading St. Augustine's memoir, I come across his seminal line: Give me chast.i.ty, Lord. But not yet Give me chast.i.ty, Lord. But not yet.

Which is my battle cry by the time David of halfway-house fame shows up. He leaves Boston to rent a boxy monk's cell spitting distance from my house. Ponytailed David with his gangster Timberland boots and red bandana holding his head together. Not yet thirty, with the habit of referring to his less than bright local bed partners in meetings as the Bimbo Brigade, David must've seen me-a single mom in academia-as some final doorway toward a cleaned-up act.

He'd looked like an old friend when he'd first rolled in that summer with a pal. Both were shopping for a cheap place to hole up while finishing freelance writing projects they'd taken advances for. (A prodigy like David did Harvard philosophy as a mere detour.) Over cheap Chinese, we all sat for hours reordering green tea and bowls of deep-fried whatnot till fortune-cookie slips confettied the linoleum booth top.

Back in Boston, we'd always talked books-n.o.body had read more than David. When I'd whined in early meetings about not writing, from across the room, he'd shoot a conspiratorial grimace. He edited Joan's dissertation before it was published, and a year later, he and I even swapped and slashed up each other's first, sober work. But he'd seemed like a stray and forlorn undergrad on Easter when Warren and I had invited him over.

In Syracuse, I must bat my eyes at him or fluff my hair like some cartoon seductress (What a ma-yan!) (What a ma-yan!), for right after, David starts packing my mailbox with bulging envelopes. Logorrheic, he calls himself. Words just pour from his pen. His yards-long letters come hand-printed in weensy, meticulous mouse type, painstakingly footnoted. Soon he's pleading his troth, signing his missives Young Werther (after a tragic swain in book and opera, with a crush on an older woman).

David is the only guy rash enough ever to get my name tattooed on his bicep-in a heart with a banner. Even before we've kissed on the lips, he does this. Watching those flesh-colored band-aids peel off in a phalanx to show an arm scarred and bloodied, a thinking woman would've hied for the hills. My response is more pitiful. I think, Wow, he might really like me Wow, he might really like me-a thought n.o.body past grade five gets to have about anything bigger than a hamster. I plant a big wet Texas mouth on his.

It's a sad testament to my virtue that an inked-up arm is all it really takes to bed me. (As one friend said later, You gotta love a date willing to do stuff he'll regret You gotta love a date willing to do stuff he'll regret.) Proof of David's undying conviction, I take it as, though Lecia points out cynically that any Mary tattoo need only Blessed Virgin Blessed Virgin carved above it for reason to remount its throne. That and David's move to my block prove, in my moronic head, some divine power's orchestrating our future together. carved above it for reason to remount its throne. That and David's move to my block prove, in my moronic head, some divine power's orchestrating our future together.

For a week or so, it's bliss. Any night I don't have Dev, David and I smoke cigars in my tree fort or read Russian short stories aloud till dawn. We watch movies where stuff blows up exclusively. Within the month, he phones Mother to announce, Mrs. Karr, I plan to marry your daughter. Mother's heartless comeback: Didn't you just get out of some place? Didn't you just get out of some place?

Then one day, almost like a switch is thrown in us both, reality sets in, turning the whole deal inside out. I'm raking leaves, waiting to borrow David's car for after-school pickup, but he slides alongside the curb, rolls down his window, and announces he's going to the gym instead.

Can't I drop you at the gym and then get Dev? I want to know.

David prefers to pick up Dev himself, then work out.

But I'm trying to shelter Dev from David's presence in my life, which David resents. He wants to plug into the husband slot right away. Words get sharp. I throw down the rake and stalk inside. He follows.

The ensuing fight rocks the rafters-a worse tussle than Warren and I ever dragged through. And soon our every day is a rage, the whole romantic endeavor flip-flopping from cuss fight to smoochy-faced makeup-the reversals coming too fast to get down in a diary. When Dev's home, I won't let David sleep over, which p.i.s.ses him off no end, as does my leaving early from a research trip he takes me on. I'm mad he doesn't fit into the slot marked reliable reliable.

(Of course, his temper fits are as vivid to me now as my own are invisible. No doubt he was richly provoked, for I'm nothing if not sharp-tongued in a fight, and however young he was, neither was I in shape to partner anybody.) If David enters the mind-set he calls a black-eyed red-out a black-eyed red-out, he's inclined to hurl all manner of object-book and backpack not least. And as a verbal opponent, he's a colossus, once driving me to that lowest of schoolyard attacks-personal appearance: At least I'm not a four-eyed, broke-nosed fop At least I'm not a four-eyed, broke-nosed fop was one of many sentences I had to apologize for. was one of many sentences I had to apologize for.

Not that anything I utter warrants his pitching my coffee table at me, my sole piece of intact furniture splintering on the wall. After, I ring a lawyer girlfriend to send him a bill for it. He fires off a check with a note arguing that since he's paid for the table, isn't it his? I shoot back that the table's still mine, but he will own its brokenness for perpetuity.

(Years later, we'll accept each other's longhand apologies for the whole debacle and resume the correspondence that held the better angels of our natures.) Disaster, my teacher Bob explained to me once, can translate as something wrong with the stars something wrong with the stars. Our stars-David's and mine-badly misalign, yet we can't escape each other's...o...b..ts. He climbs on my balcony and bangs on the bedroom window. I slip heartfelt notes under his windshield wiper. Coming across each other at a meeting, we wind up making out in the parking lot.

By Thanksgiving, we've both changed our phone numbers to escape each other's stalkeresque calls, and we're burnt out enough to let go, though we'll reconnect for a few sloppy goodbyes before he moves away that spring.

By December when telephone poles sparkle with red lights and green bells, I'm sunk in the grief for my marriage that I'd been running from all along. This time I vow to embrace my loneliness till some spiritual presence takes up residence in my rib cage.

But I face the holiday like my own private gallows. Dev and I shape clay elf ornaments to bake in the oven, but at night, while I'm grading papers, they take on a ghoulish, leering quality I didn't figure on. Walking to school under the gray sky, I envision my solo Christmas hunched over a hot plate boiling packaged noodles. (Forget that I don't own a hot plate.) Patti invites me over on Christmas Day, contingent on my volunteering at the local soup kitchen-a duty I resent like h.e.l.l. She says, Whatever you want emotionally, you have to start giving away. Want to find company? Open up to other people.

That's how I land behind the steam table of a homeless shelter on Christmas, hair wadded into a black net. One hand wields a long-handled spoon, the other an ice cream scoop for potatoes. Patti predicted I'd bond cheerily with my fellow volunteers. But to me, they're that most grisly of Christmas specters: a happy family. Uniformed in matching Buffalo Bills football jerseys, they nonstop grin like beauty contestants who've vaselined their teeth. The father says, Our lives are so abundant, this is just our way of giving back Our lives are so abundant, this is just our way of giving back.

Maybe they don't smile at my newly divorced a.s.s like I've got cooties, but that's what I feel, since part of my illness is a proclivity for lopping myself off from others while simultaneously blaming them for how lonely I feel.

Pretty soon I find myself staring at the blackened teeth of a crack-head, thinking, This is the bottom.

But as I hand over the tray in baby-blue plastic with its boxy compartments, a flash goes off inside. It hits me that had I kept drinking awhile, I could've ended up gumming my turkey like this woman does. And for an instant, I actually look at her. Reaching for the tray is a big-knuckled farm girl's hand shaped surprisingly like my own in the plastic glove. It's one of those head-trippy instants when my innate suspicion inverts. For a second our matching hands simultaneously hold opposing sides of the steaming item. How manufactured we both are-it briefly strikes me-things shaped and formed, as the tray is, or the long-handled spoon with its flat rivet. I guide the spoon to dive into the stuffing, thinking, I didn't grow this hand myself. It was drawn forth without my willing it into flesh.

I'd like to say I didn't have a revelation on Christmas Eve in a homeless shelter. If it seems predictable and unlikely, try it before you're snide about it. I'd ditto like to say I fell Buddha-like to the floor and began to serve mankind selflessly ever after. But the blush of compa.s.sion lasts just a millisecond, diluting soon as I start struggling to name it. Meanwhile, my thumb on the ice cream scoop mechanically pushes out a load of mashed potatoes; I ladle up cranberry.

The family in their Buffalo Bills shirts don't seem like such chowderheads for an instant, and how alive I suddenly am. Even the ache in my feet is a measure of that.